At some point in life, you’ll have to heal from your past to have a happy and prosperous life. As you go through this journey, you’ll experience setbacks, newly discovered emotions, and fear of the unknown. There may be a period throughout your journey where you’re not quite sure what’s going on. You may feel uneasy and unsure, but that’s the time you should buckle down and push yourself harder than before. Below is a list of things you will experience while healing, but understand these things are normal and necessary.
#1) You won’t know where to start, but get started anyway.
⁃ The moment you decide you want to heel, begin the journey. It doesn’t matter where you are in life, career, money, or relationships. Those things could have an effect on you at the beginning, but when you begin your healing process- take time to decide which step you want to take first.
#2) You don’t know how long the healing process will take, so don’t try to figure it out.
⁃ When I started my healing journey, I had no idea it would take me two years to heal. But, here’s the twist. It took me another 3-4 years to accept my new life and adjust to it. My journey was hard, but I learned a lot about emotions, people, healing from traumatic experiences, and most importantly, I learned how to enjoy my life while healing.
#3) Once you start your journey, SET BOUNDARIES.
⁃ Have you ever heard the saying, “You can’t heal where you hurt.” This is a true statement. You can make the necessary changes to your life in the same environment that hurt you. Many of us had to learn this early in life. If you wait too long, you may miss your window. How we are raised or where we grow up has an effect on how we are molded. Anything and anyone that is harmful to your journey, you need to let it or them go. EVEN IF IT HURTS.
#4) Don’t decide to heal for someone else. DO THIS FOR YOU.
⁃ DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OR HOW THEY FEEL WHEN YOU DECIDE TO DO WHAT’S BEST FOR YOU. Once you decide to change, many people will try to convince you not to in many negative ways. For example, they will stop talking to you. They will laugh and talk about you. They will try to make your journey harder for you. Don’t worry. The change you are making makes them feel less in control of you. They don’t like it because their control over you is what they depended on to make them feel better about themselves. Do you.
When I was on my journey, I’ll never forget asking God when everything I am going through would make sense. At times, I would get discouraged for going backwards. The most disappointing thing I faced was feeling bad Overtime, I learned to understand to accept it and move on. If I got mad, irritated, or angry, I would feel bad. However, this is part of healing from your past. You will experience emotions you’ve never experienced or haven’t experienced in a long time. If you want a new life, start your healing now. You got this. Write down where you want to be and work towards that goal.